Cotillion Etiquette Booklet

The attached Etiquette Tip Booklet was shared at the 2017-2018 Cotillion New Member Orientation.  This is a great booklet for all to print and reference throughout the coming Membership season.

Cotillion Club Etiquette Booklet 2017-2018.pdf

Dance Proper Attire

The Cotillion Club has a specific dress code for Cotillion dances. It has been a long-held tradition to require appropriate dress at these events. Adherence to the following dress code is expected and enforced unless otherwise noted on the invitation.

Each Member of Cotillion agreed to the rules and guidelines when they joined the Club. The Dress Code (#7) details specific rules that must be followed by all Members. The Rules of Cotillion are clearly documented and are available on this web site. Please review these Rules prior to attending a dance so you are in compliance.

The Board of Directors makes a concerted effort to consistently enforce the dress code at each event. Those Members who do not follow the dress code will be issued an infraction for their failure to follow the Rulesof Cotillion.

If you are not sure if your dress is appropriate for a dinner-dance, and you would like clarification, you are welcome to email a picture of your dress to any of the Executive Board Members listed on the Contact page  

Proper Cotillion Dinner Dance Event Dress Attire for Ladies


Cotillion dresses:

Should be appropriately dressy (semi-formal or formal) as indicated on the invitation.

Hemlines should be longer than the ladies’ fingertips when her arm is extended by her side, even while dancing.

          Comfortable shoes are encouraged.

                                Dressy shoes must fasten around the ankle.

Improper Cotillion Dinner Dance Dress Attire for Ladies


No pant suits, bare midriff, low cut back, or dresses that are too short, tight, or revealing.

Hemlines must extend BEYOND the fingertips. Dresses should remain below the fingertips while a lady is dancing.

Please refrain from wearing any dress that would be considered a type of a “club” dress.


No flip-flops, boots, sneakers or canvas shoes.

Backless shoes are considered inappropriate.

Proper Cotillion Dinner Dance Dress Attire for Men

Gentlemen must wear a traditional suit.

Or Gentlemen can wear a suit jacket, or blazer, with slacks.

Button down dress shirt with a collar.

Tie, leather belt and dress socks.

Gentlemen must wear hard-soled dress shoes.

Improper Cotillion Dinner Dance Dress Attire for Men


    The following clothing is not acceptable:


    Corduroy slacks

    Collarless shirt


    Sport socks


    Hush puppies or boat shoes are not appropriate for a semi-formal or formal event. [AKA] rubber-soled shoes.

                         What do to at a Cotillion Dinner-Dance                       if your attire is deemed inappropriate

    If attire is deemed inappropriate by a Board Director prior to checking in, the choices are as follows:

    1.  Parents return with appropriate attire prior to 8:00 PM.

    2. Ladies: If the dress is deemed too short, wear a slip skirt provided; if the dress is deemed too revealing, wear a shawl provided. The slip skirt and/or shawl must be worn the entire evening.

      2. Gentlemen: Wear the tie or suit jacket (offered by Cotillion).

      3.  Decide not to attend the dance, at which point the parent is contacted for Member pick up.

      Cotillion Club of Sarasota, Inc.
      P.O. Box 19171
      Sarasota , FL 34276-2171

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